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First time cat owner. I have had my 13 week old Abyssinian for 11 days now. 

I knew he was going to be stressed, scared, and shy at first and he didn't eat, drink, or pee for almost 48 hours.  I'm sure it didn't help that the morning after I had picked him up we went to the vet for a check-up which probably scared him even more.  He now loves his litter box, food, and water even though it took him some time to figure out how to not tip over the bowl :). 

I didn't come into the situation blind and knew that you need to let the cat come to you.  He has been in my bedroom with his toys and everything else (I have been sleeping on the couch to avoid further stress).  I feed him 3 times a day and keep the dish near me and a hiding place for him as I sit in the corner of the room quietly.  He is very comfortable with this after our 11 days together and will come right after I have sat down but will hiss then move on to his food.  After he eats I use a wand toy to play with him and he gets pretty excited over play time now. 

Here is the issue.  He still won’t let me near him.  He will come up and sniff me but I would have to be sitting for nearly an hour quietly in the same spot for him to even attempt this.  When hes playing with his wand he gets very close even sliding into my legs at times but as soon as he sees my face he hisses and runs away (I try to avoid direct eye contact during play as people have said that is cat language for confrontation).  I give him treats that I place in my hand.  He will hiss as I extend my arm closer to him but then investigates my hand and takes the treat. 

I understand this can take some time but does anyone else have any tips?  Spending 4-5 hours a day just sitting quietly in a corner of a room for 11 days without much feedback or change in the cats behavior is getting pretty tiring.

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lukesmom

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I am trying to find out a method of training that is with sound undetectable to human ears.

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sdpolivia

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My sweet baby is 21 years old. My husband got a job out of the continental U. S. I only have 4 options. 1) take her with me and put her through hell in the manner of tests vaccination, quarantine pluse a flight!  ( the vet told me her chances of survival....less than 5%).                          2) stay with her, marriage be dammed, until she goes.                         3) give her to my sister, who she does not know, so she can wonder where I went and die alone.                                 4) put her to sleep while I hold her no matter how much it hurts.                       Please help. For 21 years I have been her mom and this whole situation is breaking my heart, I don't know what's best for her for sure. I think if she and I could talk she would want to go, because she's only stag for me.....but I'm so lost! And can't stop crying!

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feisty

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Has anyone ever had their cat start drooling. I've had blood work done, normal, appetite normal. May be an allergic reaction? Please help.

Tonight our almost 4 year old kitty Gibby died unexpectedly. He was fine all week and all day. Acting like his normal self. Eating, meowing, being a lover. When I was making dinner I heard loud thumps in my son's room I said what is that and my son said my laptop? He was in the living room. It sounded like his laptop being thrown on the floor I ran in and my kitty was having what looked like a seizure on my son's floor. He was on the top bunk sleeping a 1/2 hour ago. He must have fallen off the bed from seizing? I was so scared I thought he might be ok after he stopped convoluting. But then he just stopped and stopped breathing. His body looked like he was breathing which I think he was until one big deep breath and then nothing. I started blowing in his mouth but it was too late. I'm so sad even worse my son and daughter both seen this and seen his dead body. I held my son as he cried himself to sleep. I don't know what could have been wrong? I was in the process of getting him neutered I know at almost 4 that's late in life. Also I think he may have had worms in the litter box I noticed white specs I thought maybe worms. So he was going to get that taken care of too while being neutered. I don't think round worms can kill a cat can they? 
Sorry this is so long I'm in shock and so upset. Has anyone else had this happen? I read a couple articles on here about sudden death in a healthy cat. My cat never had seizures. I don't know what happened? Just very sad.

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sabine

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Two days ago when we got home in the evening after being away for three hours our beloved cat Obi was resting at his favourite spot. When he didn't react when we called him, I went to check on him and he was dead! He was only nine years old and we cannot understand what caused this sudden and unexpected death. He seemed healthy except that he ate a little bit less and slept a lot lately but we thought it is because of the heat. Our house is pretty cool though and he never had any symptoms like short breath or drooling. He even had some food while we were away. When we found him he looked very peaceful with no signs of distress like vomiting or cramping. He just lay there as usual waiting for us and must have basically died in his sleep. Most likely he must have suffered a heart attack? I am so sad and shocked to learn about so many sudden deaths with otherwise healthy and young cats. We miss him terribly since he was a true family member and such a great company.

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sphynxfighter

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Hello All, I am here because I have and am still suffering at the hands of HCM. I am working on compiling a database of all the breeders who are producing HCM positive kittens regardless of the status of the cats they continue to breed. You see. Just because their breeding cats scan negative doesn't mean anything and they prey on all of our weak hearts in hopes that we will just except it and move on when we approach them with news of the death or oncoming demise of our loved ones. There are many breeders out there breeding cats that they full well know are producing cats with a VERY high probability of having HCM and in many cases kittens are showing evidence of these death sentence as early as 4 months old. Until we all get together and start holding these breeders accountable they will just continue to breed these cats until they themselves die of the very horrific disease they spread like wildfire. So I beg you, If you have had or have a feline love that has passed or is on it's way. Please just let me know the cattery name and if possible the full name of the parents your baby came from. I just want this atrocity to stop. Please help me and most of all help the wonderful breed we all love so much. Otherwise it will never end and the pain will continue and the grief will go on forever. 

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sdpolivia

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My sweet baby is 21 years old. My husband got a job out of the continental U. S. I only have 4 options. 1) take her with me and put her through hell in the manner of tests vaccination, quarantine pluse a flight!  ( the vet told me her chances of survival....less than 5%).                          2) stay with her, marriage be dammed, until she goes.                         3) give her to my sister, who she does not know, so she can wonder where I went and die alone.                                 4) put her to sleep while I hold her no matter how much it hurts.                       Please help. For 21 years I have been her mom and this whole situation is breaking my heart, I don't know what's best for her for sure. I think if she and I could talk she would want to go, because she's only stag for me.....but I'm so lost! And can't stop crying!

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About 4½ yrs ago, I rescued this male black kitten, then about 4 weeks old, from the local refuse dump in our village, Sedgefield, in South Africa.  His fur covered in smelly fluid and flea infested.  I took him home, and my wife and one son who was at home at the time, bathed him and rid him of the fleas. We have two other older cats, one also a black male I took in as a stray, and a Siamese female the wife purchased.

 Fast forward to 21st Jan 2016,  at about 3 AM, he got off the bed where he slept ever since that day, cuddled up snugly  against my one  leg, gave an unusual soft cough, and went out the always open window, as he always did early mornings. When he did not return after about an hour, we started looking for him calling his name ( Afrikaans for “Eyes” because of the prominent large eyes)  after a frantic search, my son  discovered his limp body on the floor of our garden shed.  I went absolutely hysterical and cried my heart out, even though I am 69 yrs old. I have been crying every day since, and am still devastated.  After research on the Net, the conclusion was drawn that it was probably the dreaded heart condition, Cardiomyopathy, as he showed no signs of prior distress and was healthy as could be.

He meant  the world  to me and we became very attached to each other.  He would follow me all over the house and garden, even went for rides with me and the wife in  the car around the village, and for walks on the sand dunes at the beach and in a large church garden close to our home,  We showered him with love and affection and took turns to cuddled him at least 6 times a day!

We buried him in one corner of our back yard  next  to a small vegetable patch,  where we spent so  many precious moments together. Him mimicking me, and digging small holes when planting veggies.

It is absolute agony wandering about the house and see all his favourite lounging spots, still expecting to see him around every corner or lying on his favourite sofa.

We have visited the grave site about  20 times since,  asking ourselves a thousand times “ why him!” We will cherish the fond memories of his far too short, 4½ yrs, he shared with us, till our dying days.

If cats could talk, I am sure he would have said just before exhaling his last breath  “ Don’t mourn my death mommy and daddy,  Just cherish the countless memories of the wonderful life I shared with you”

Sleep peacefully our little angel. We will miss you so much! 

My cat died last Tues. noon after vomiting for 2 days. He died in my son's arms on his way to a vet's clinic. I am devastated by his death and I feel guilty not to take him to see the vet one day early. He was only 3 yeas old, extremely friendly and intelligent. He did not vomit a lot. So I thought he would recover. One year ago, he also vomited for 1 day, but recovered later. The internet says we should take the cat to see the vet after 48 hours if he is not better. Now I learned that if my cat is vomiting liquid, I need to take him to see the vet immediately. He has brought me so much comfort and fun and I was devastated by his death. I am so sad.

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