am i too over-protective?
User Name: faile_cf
Parent Forum: General Cat Forum
Posted: 3/17/2009 12:06 AM
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let me preface this post by saying i do not smoke pot, and neither does my boyfriend except on the rare occasion and i always get mad at him. he used to, though. a lot. we have friends who like smoke though. sometime last year, i had been out with my friend, and i came home to my apartment i shared with my boyfriend to find the living room full of people, a thick haze of pot smoke and cujo sitting on his cat tree in the middle of it. i was livid. i grabbed my cats and sat in the bedroom with the door closed till everyone left and the air had cleared. bf got a good talking to, and i made it clear i did not want anyone smoking pot in a house where my cats were. so last night i come home from work, bf has a couple friends over and the window is open. since it was freezing cold outside, i asked why the window was open and he said "oh, so-and-so was over earlier and smoked some pot". so not only did he not respect my wishes for my cats, i've been paying to heat the outside for hours. thats not all though, i've been increasingly wary of people being around my cats without me being present. cujo i'm not so worried about, he's very easy going and always been cool with people. my little girl though, hides in the bedroom anytime someone comes over and only comes out if i'm home. she'll let peole pet her as long as she can sniff them before hand and decides they're ok, but she doesn't even like being held by me. she follows me around the house and can't have closed doors between us. she's fine with bf, but she's only completely comfortable with me. yesterday when i go home, she came out of the bedroom to see me. bf's friend (not the pot smoker) picked her up and tried to hold her which she did not like. i find myself worrying about her mental health when other people pick her up or pet her when she's not ready and so on. i don't even want people over now when i'm not home because i'm worried about how my cats are being treated. am i being way to neurotic here?